The Family (Or most of them)

The Family (Or most of them)
The Family

June 20, 2010

Fathers Day 2010

ThThat should be true. My daughter gave this to me -- I can't remember now if my son Evan ALSO gave it to me -- several years ago.
Today is Father's Day 2010. We know most of these days were just made up by the card companies to sell more cards. But it's like me saying I wish the Allies had never bombed Hiroshima.
My kids have done lots over the years to make sure I never feel like useless tits on a bull. But let's face it -- the mother is far more important than the male in child rearing, once you take impregnating the woman away.
But really, what IS then the role of a father? It IS or can be influential. It is being there, it is not being afraid to feel, it is teaching your kids what's right and what's wrong, it's being responsible, it's respecting.
It's a whole bunch of things. They all add up to it's loving.

My kids are grown now. For my son, especially, it's about learning to grow up and not be a doofus. And increasingly, at 18, he isn't.

The picture above is the pix of him I've got within the pic I brought back from India that also has some pix of my daughter. The pix, ironically, is of a snake charmer. And sometimes, with my kids, that's what I have to be.

I don't know where the pix went. But on my bed. I've got this little pillow given to many years ago by my daughter, who's now 22 or something.
On it, it says simply "A Father is somenone you look up to, no matter how tall you get." Fathers aren't the important life sustaining creature that mothers are. But we have no choice. Smile to your kids. Love them.


  1. Happy Father's Day!

    Believe me, as someone who lost a father at a very young age, I still miss my father, long after he's been gone. A father is essential to child rearing. His absence is often felt for a lifetime.

    I'm really glad that you have such a great relationship with your kids. I can see the love in all the pics of them and you that you share with us.

    Have a great week, you great Dad!

  2. ErosWings: Thanks. :-)

  3. I have no memories of my father and completely forgot that this is Father's Day.

    Thank goodness your kids know and love you.

    It's a blessing.

    Hugs to you...AND to Eros too!

  4. What happened to MJ's remark? Don't tell me she's persona non grata again!?

  5. My comments continue to disappear.

    Another blogger had her blog shut down at the same time as mine and her comments keep disappearing too.

    Eroswings has kindly started up a crusade on a Blogger help forum here to try to get my missing comments restored.

    It’s a mystery. And it’s frustrating.

    If I sign in using the Name/URL feature instead of with my usual log-in/avatar, then the comment stays. But you don't see my avatar. Which is what I'm doing right now so that the comment stays this time.

    By the way, my blog will be going on hiatus for the summer. You won’t be seeing much of me on YOUR blog either but I’ll be thinking of you.

  6. Anonymous9:02 p.m.

    Oh Daddy . . . you are lucky and so are your kids. Happy Father's Day from someone who wishes her daddy could have been around a lot longer.

  7. Lis: You are beautiful. I wish I could have met your Dad. He would, I'm sure, have been beautiful too, like you.

  8. MJ:
    Now I look like a doofus for sayin what I said...they put your comment back. They're trying to make ME extinct now.

    But I won't go for now. It's like they hired a bunch of lowly paid henchmen from Thailand who can't speak English.

    Or that's what the Google bots will do. They'll go all Orwellian on me. Let's call them Hymie. The steam is coming out of their ears.

  9. Ha1 the Owellians won't post my critical comments! They're just like those guys who operated the tank in Tianemen Square!


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