The Family (Or most of them)

The Family (Or most of them)
The Family

October 1, 2010

I am a Deadbeat Dad

I am a Deadbeat Dad. It doesn't matter that I didn't tear the marriage apart. It DOES matter that I have a sexual organ that shoots sperm instead of eggs. You can be irresponsible, a liar, smuggle booze into concerts.

But the person who wrongly, stupidly, is married to such a person pays even though he has no full-time job because, of all things, a stroke that only almost killed him before he had turned 55.

What the heck. He is just a deadbeat Dad, right? It is his fault. He is the convenient fall guy. Never mind all those weekends -- they count for zip.

Thankfully, I have found a REAL person -- one who doesn't pretend and conceal and one who is 10 times the person his ex wife is. But she's got me by the balls. My ex wife that is.

She is using Canada's archaic support laws to make my life miserable and to make my new life hard to get started. But me and my new wife will eventually get past this and survive it.

I will even survive the alienation of my kids, who are sticking by her because that's what kids do. Iam an easy target, and now my ex, who is responsible for our marriage breakup in the first place, is laughing all the way.

Such is life. I seem like the bad guy. But I am not.


  1. I have been reading your blog posts for more than three years now. You are a great dad. No matter what one says. Why should it bother you now? You go ahead and do what is right. Your children will come around as soon as they realize the truth. Don't worry about it. They always do.

    Hugs for you. And tell your fiancee that I live in Delhi and can only send e-hugs! She doesn't have to worry about me!

  2. Gautami: Because I am still paying. I should have just died instead of have a stroke and almost die.

    I should have not paid her support all these years. But our government requires it and my kids would suffer.

    I can't help feeling victimized.

  3. Anonymous12:24 p.m.

    Chris, I thank God each and every day that you are still alive, and I have no doubt your children do as well. Guatami, you have given WW some very good advice. I hope Mr. Stubborn accepts it! :-)
    - Elisabeth

  4. you did the right thing, sugar. you paid your child support and i'm guessing alimony. no matter what is happening now, children become adults and realize things were not always what they seemed and there are really 2 sides to every story. hang in there, chris. i only know you from your words here and the pictures you've posted of your family, but i'm guessing you're a good man! besides, anyone who's stayed friends with donnnnnnnn for so many years has to have a good heart! ;~) xoxoxoxoxox

  5. Savannah: No, I'm a Deadbeat Dad. You sure are right about Donnnnnnnn though! Or is it Donnnnnnnnn?

    Seriously, thanks.

  6. You're not just a good man, you're a great man.

    I'm rooting for you.

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